. . . is ministry. It is a gift of the Holy Spirit given so that we may minister to a dying society. I have family members in that “dying society”.  Will any be visiting your home for Thanksgiving?

Since the purpose of entertaining is all about me, the hostess. Hospitality must be all about Jesus Christ.

Less of me more of Him.

I am in the throes of what that looks like, as the countdown to the first wave of family arrivals is narrowing. Ministry actually begins before anyone crosses the threshold — in our loving preparations. My goal is to have as much done before anyone arrives and not be distracted while everyone is here.

So as my first to-do list is now in its 3rd edtion — eliminating the unnecessary and replacing with the most critical — we are almost ready and I wonder, what is the “more of Him” that can be seen and felt during this family gathering?

Proverbs 31:26 “she opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” ~~ my mouth stays closed unless wisdom and kindness are spoken.

Titus 2:3 “to be reverent in their behavior” ~~ a quiet spirit, behind the scenes, peaceful, a constant remembering that the Lord is in our home, the Lord is receiving, and the Lord is to be glorified.

Hospitality is so much more than displaying my talent; it is a gift of the Holy Spirit. “It is a supernatural ministry that, when combined with righteous living, bathed in prayer, and dedicated to the Lord, can be used by God far beyond anything we ask or think.”  Karen Mains, Open Heart, Open Home*

 *I have really enjoyed this book and found many thoughts addressing hospitality vs. entertaining. I struggled as to whether to share this author and book with you. After researching some of her theology and rereading this book after several years with more discerning eyes; there are definitely some theological problems. One problem is that she believes that the gifts of the Holy Spirit are illustrative. She points to her writing — Mains attributes her writing ability to God but because it is not specifically listed in Scripture, she wants to add it to the gifts of the Spirit. I would argue that her gift for writing falls under the gift of teaching, or even faith. As always, be cautious and discerning when reading any book offering interpretation of Scripture and it’s application to life.





Peppered throughout the weeks between now and Christmas, I will be submitting for your consideration the differences between “Entertaining” and “Hospitality”. I hope these thoughts and devotions will bring peace and stability to your holiday preparations and most importantly keep the “reason for the season”  your prioirty for you and your family.

Entertaining versus Hospitality


We often think of entertaining as a woman’s chance to demonstrate her skill and the quality of her home. Entertaining has little to do with real hospitality. We make those we love miserable prior to the sacred event with the precious details, high expectations, and fluctuating confidence levels of our upcoming performance.

Hospitality seeks to minister. It says “This home is not mine. It is truly a gift from my Master. I am His servant, and I use it as He desires.”

Hospitality does not try to impress but to serve.

“But Martha was distracted with all her preparations;”
Luke 10:40